True Commitment to Our Relationships

Alhamdullilah, we have now completed delivering our LIVE "Finding Love & Mercy" Course on How to Choose a Husband who will take you by the hand to jannah in sha Allah. If you missed it, alhamdullilah with the great interest we have been receiving we are now making the course available in a home study version (for less than half of the original value) that you can order anytime and use at your convenience. It's here!:) So visit us at www.findingloveandmercy.com for more information.


I personally enjoyed teaching the course so much and continued to see the need to empower others to learn the skills that will enable them to have excellent relationships in sha Allah. Please enjoy my article below on "True Commitment to our Relationships" and stay tuned for a special announcement I will be making on how to revive our relationships soon in sha Allah!


True Commitment to Our Relationships


Indeed our relationships can be our most important investment in life. Most of us can agree that any successful relationship requires serious and consistent commitment. Yet, how many of us make sure this commitment is clearly conveyed both in our words and in our actions?


Whether it is wanting to have a successful relationship with our children, with our spouses, or with our families in general, commitment is a common and essential ingredient.


In Linda and Richard Eyre's "The Book of Nurturing: Nine Laws for Enriching Your Family Life", the first "law" they speak of is that of commitment. If we really and sincerely want successful and loving relationships with those most important to us, we have to tell them and show them. And we have to do it often. In this book, one couple re-stated their commitment to each other years later after their marriage and actually wrote out "commitment documents" to one another. I've shared here with you a section of the husband's commitment document:


"I hereby recommit myself, my resources, my gifts, to you as my wife and as the only romantic love of my life. While I am far from perfect as a husband, there are many things you can absolutely and always count on from me. One is that I will put your interests first in every choice or decision I face. Two is that I will always be completely honest with you and have no secrets from you. Third is that I will be a full partner with you in the raising of our children. Fourth is that I will never let other priorities like work or sports get ahead of you and the kids or cause me to do anything that would damage or impact negatively on you or on your happiness".


One final point on commitment is the example of geese that the authors gave. It was truly humbling to see how this creation, through the mercy of God, show true commitment to one another. Geese mate for life until one of them dies, therefore sometimes spending more than 50 years together. They are completely committed to their families – they strive to keep each other safe, they put each other first, they know they can depend on each other, and one final beautiful nature of geese, is that they always come home.


These are some examples I have shared with you, and so I encourage you to find a way to say or show your commitment to those who matter most to you in life.