I was recently having a conversation with a sister at an event and found myself having to make the argument for marriage. To be quite honest, I was a little surprised that someone would try to resist the fitrah (nature) that Allah (SwT) created in us for companionship.
By all means, there will be people that don’t get married for a variety of reasons and at the end of the day, it all lies with Allah (SwT). However, Allah (SwT) created Adam and then shortly after created Eve because even though Adam was in heaven, he could not live alone. He needed a companion. He needed someone to be his source of love, mercy, and tranquility. He needed Eve.
And this is why I continue to believe in the importance of ensuring that you are prepared to select the one that will bring you the happiness and serenity that you long for and deserve in sha Allah.
I have already given some tidbits about the first most important steps which are to know who you are (self-awareness) and what you want (planning).
The next step would be to learn how to get what you want. So to put your plan into action. This would include things such as your relationship attitudes and beliefs and where you expect to receive your proposals from.
There’s this saying out there that what you believe, you can achieve. We all may have fears and self-limiting beliefs, but many of us are unaware of them. So some people think life is great while others think life is full of doom and gloom. Some people feel alhamdullilah they were blessed with gifts and talents that they can use to help others while others feel like they have nothing to offer. Positive attitudes are productive; negative ones are unproductive and you can choose to keep the ones that serve you and let go of the ones that don’t.
In sha Allah in my upcoming “The 10 Secrets of How To Select Your Soul Mate”, I’ll be going into a lot more depth about this topic and the 10 other steps you need to select the one that is right for you.
Our online session will be on July 19th at 12pm EST – to attend, all you have to do is register for our Reviving Relationships Program.